I worked with Jen in coaching for a while before daring to ask for a giftedness level assessment. I was really scared because I don’t want to feel like I’m “better” than anyone, but in coaching I was realizing that I was avoiding understanding myself by avoiding knowing about my gifted profile. So, we scheduled an assessment session, and it was life-changing. I realized that I am exceptionally gifted and highly empathic, and as a woman, sometimes those aspects of myself have worked in competition with each other. I want to be smart and move ahead at my speed, but I want to care for everyone and never make others suffer. Jen has helped me realize that I have a right and a real need to express my exceptionally gifted self, but that with self-awareness, I can also learn to do so in ways that does not hurt others. This is a huge revelation, and Jen and I are continuing to work on it in our coaching sessions. It’s hard to believe that, after 20 years of therapy, my life could change so much in just a half-year of knowing Jen! Thank you Jen.
JENNIFER HARVEY SALLIN
Psychologist, Coach & Mentor providing:
Training & Mentoring Professionals Who Support the Gifted
Assessments, Workshops & Courses for Gifted Adults
Coaching & Mentoring Profoundly Gifted Adults
Social Worker, Coach & Mediator providing:
Support for Couples & Families with Giftedness and other Challenges
Coaching for Kids & Adults with Giftedness and other Challenges
Mediation for Families in Transition, such as Separation and Divorce
WHAT IS GIFTEDNESS?
Giftedness is a mind construction – a way we take in the world, perceive and organize it. That construction is statistically uncommon, in terms of speed, complexity and intensity, and many gifted people don’t recognize they are gifted because they think everyone else is like them. The way a gifted person expresses their giftedness depends on many factors, such as type (intellectual only, or intellectual plus emotional, creative, and so on), level (mild, moderate, high, exceptional or profound), presence of other challenges (such as learning disabilities or neurological abnormalities), and the amount of support, recognition, appreciation and mirroring they’ve had in their lives. In other words, giftedness does not always look the same and is not a one-size-fits-all concept. Each gifted person’s mind comes with its own unique challenges and opportunities, and that’s what we help our gifted clients to embrace and constructively co-create with in their lives!
ABOUT OUR WORK
“In the time I’ve spent working with Jen, I’ve learned many things. Of these lessons learned the most important to me was learning to accept that life is full of positive experiences and negative experiences, positive people and negative people. Many of the variables in our lives are not within our control. We can’t control everything that happens, and we can’t control how other people act. The only thing we can control is ourselves and the way we react to life’s many circumstances. Jen helped me learn how to accept myself, and my life fully. She taught me to accept that the worst may happen but to go out and live my life anyway because a life of fear is not really a life at all. Jen helped me to take control of my life again and in doing so I got my life back.”
“It has been a true privilege to work with Jen. I can honestly say that no one has ever gotten me the way she does; she really understands me and is highly compassionate. I’ve never felt as safe talking about my frantic inner world as I feel with her. Jen has a remarkable intuitive touch that is hard to describe, which she combines with lots of experience, knowledge and preparation for each session. When we started the coaching process I felt overwhelmed and lost in life, things looked great on the outside and I was doing a ton of stuff, but on the inside I felt scattered and disheartened; “is this all there is?” Luckily things are changing, and changing fast, paradoxically by slowing down. Coaching with Jen isn’t just about action-planning, it goes to a deeper level of changing yourself and your surrounding world by finding and expressing who and what you are at your core. This has been more profound than I could have possibly imagined! You’ll need to experience it yourself to really understand it, and I highly recommend that you do!”
Jen’s time management course for gifted people really changed things for me. The awareness I gained about how I used my time, and how that did or didn’t match up with my values and goals caused a major shift in my mindset. It went beyond simply being more productive, or working on creative pursuits, to focusing on creating a conscious construction of yourself. Feeling aligned with yourself is where the opportunity to create productivity comes in. It’s not necessarily about the goal itself, it is about about your values. I also needed someone to tell me that it’s okay to spend time dreaming. I’ve always been so ambitious, setting my life up before it is headed anywhere. When Jen emphasized the fact that I need to give myself the space to dream about the possibilities, that encouraged me to “breathe” a little more and made me even more excited to be where I am. I also thought about the people I choose to spend my time with; the time I spend alone doing things that I maybe didn’t see as productive before, but now understand their importance much more. I have changed a lot already and am excited to see where this continues to take me.
Jen’s Gifted Psychology 101 course for coaches offers an extensive and in-depth look at core components of practical psychology, highlights where and how giftedness changes the picture, and shows how it all relates to coaching. The course work also provides plenty of recommended reading for further studies on your own. My knowledge of giftedness, psychology and coaching has increased manifold – I now feel many times more competent and comfortable in my role as philosophical coach.
…And that was the professional side of things. For as it happens, during this past year of Psych 101, I seem to have undergone a complete, personal transformation. I’ve read some of the most life-transforming books I’ve ever read. The homework included some of the most important psychological work I’ve ever done – for me, personally. As friend, partner, parent. And just for how I wake up in the morning, welcome the day and what it brings, and then welcome the night when its time to sleep. I feel “upgraded”, if that makes sense. I’d do it all again, any day.
It’s hard to describe what happened to me when I did my assessment with Jen. It was like a whole split in my life happened, in a good way. I couldn’t believe that she was able to read me and my mind so clearly, and it was hard to hold in my tears of relief throughout our entire session. Perhaps most helpful was that she was not only able to see into my mind and describe it with crystal clarity, but she was able to help me see what I could do concretely in my life to make room for my full flourishing. I had had an IQ test ages before, and it had never helped me understand my mind or what to do with it in my real life. Now I feel like I have a manual for myself and a map of where to go and how to get there.
Jen’s time management course for gifted people goes way beyond simple time management techniques. It allows profound self-reflection and group sharing on the aspects of ourselves and our lives which make it challenging to manage our professional and personal responsibilities. Included are identifying our needs, rhythms, personality style, letting go, and going to the essential. It has been the best self-development course I’ve taken – one from which I have seen a clear “before” and “after” in my life!
“Jen is a phenomenal mentor for aspiring gifted coaches. Working with her has been a true privilege. Not only does she bring a thorough understanding of giftedness and years of experience in coaching gifted people to the sessions, she also empowers you to develop your unique style in all aspects of coaching. She supported me in becoming my most courageous and authentic self in my coaching practice. Whenever I was ready to go to the next level, she was right there, ready for the next leg towards mastery, believing in me without reservation. Jen has a distinctive gift to bring out the best coach in you – her insights, teachings and approaches have been an invaluable asset in this endeavour.”
Coaching and Guidance for the Unique, Gifted and Curious